Happy New Year! Everyone is talking about their New Year goals for 2018 and I’m definitely in that mode as well. I like to reflect on the previous year, what worked, what didn’t, and what changes need to be made going forward. Doing this provides the wisdom & direction I need when setting new goals.
2017 was a year of wonderful blessings for us. The kids continued to grow and thrive, Chris continued to enjoy his work, and along with being a full-time mama, I got to do what I love: use my words & social media presence to connect with others. I’m humbled that you continue to read and follow my blog. Thank you so much!
As you know, social media can be tricky. It’s a platform for creative people to share the best of the best. There’s nothing wrong with that, but we have to remember all the images are edited and perfected to a T. And while a pretty picture can inspire us, it’s the realness that CONNECTS us. And I always want to be real with you.
I didn’t really like who I became in 2017.
I was overwhelmed and had a bad attitude about it. The stress of taking care of the kids full-time and not having enough time to complete what I WANTED TO DO completely sabotaged my joy to a point that I couldn’t see the blessings right in front of me.
I was becoming short-tempered, resentful, and unhappy.
Anyone who has stayed home with their kids knows that it’s both a blessing and a curse. A blessing because you don’t have to split your life in 2 worlds; work and home. No fighting traffic everyday, no dress codes or stuffy boardrooms. You can take the kids to appointments without feeling guilty for missing work. You can truly dedicate 100% to your family. A curse because there is absolutely no freedom. Simple tasks like getting dressed, going to the bathroom, taking a shower, cooking, eating, washing clothes are really freaking hard to do. The things you have on your agenda can’t get done because of the constant distractions. Texts & emails don’t get returned. Bills are paid late. There is something to be done for a child every minute of every day. This is very hard for my fiercely independent personality. I’m at war with myself constantly.
I took a step back and asked myself why was I getting so easily frustrated and what I could do about it.
I had to admit to myself that I wasn’t in a good place mentally or physically.
It’s all me. It’s my mindset. It’s my expectations. It’s my PRIDE that I can accomplish my individual New Year goals with three kids. I’m doing it to myself.
Yes, kids are a source of frustration, but it’s not their fault that I get frustrated easily. They are just being kids, pushing boundaries, being curious.
So I’m going to take back control of my life and my attitude, and here are the New Year goals and changes I’m making in 2018 in order to do this:
- Exercise- It’s been over 2 years since I’ve worked out. This is absolutely why I feel so defeated. I need a physical outlet or else I don’t feel like myself.
- Eat better & drink more water- I’ve been eating way too much processed food and not making healthy choices. I will drink half my body weight in ounces of water per day. No excuses.
- Expect Less- Let go of the pressure that I put on myself and the kids. This means not letting the to-do list run our lives. Things will get done eventually and that’s ok. There is beauty in imperfection and uncertainty. I want to embrace this more.
I’ve already started progress on these New Year goals and I’m so excited about it. It’s unlike me to not be happy & content, and like I’ve shared in a previous blog post, it’s up to US to make changes towards a happy life. No one else is going to do it for us.
2018 will be an awesome year for my family! I’m excited about what this year holds!
P.S. If you aren’t where you want to be, it’s ok to take a step back and reevaluate where you are in your life and make changes if necessary. The Lord gives us a clean slate each day to make better choices and become the best version of ourselves. What a great opportunity.
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