I’ve learned a lot in my first year as a SAHM. My kids are 7, 5 and 1, and it’s been quite an adjustment for me. Not only am I learning about them, I’m also learning about myself. Here are a few things I wanted to share.
- I’ve learned to just GO. Get out of the house. Take all the kids. It will be scary at first but the more you do it, the better the kids will be in public. You will learn what works and what doesn’t and make adjustments. Before long, you’ll be a pro!
- I’ve learned to disconnect. Not necessarily because I want to, but because there is no time. (what is TV and how do people have time to watch it and how can I catch up on all these shows and movies and news and what is even happening out there?!)
- I’ve learned that when all three kids are strapped in their car seats and everyone is in one place and they cannot move, it is magical.
- I’ve learned that I cannot live without dry shampoo, coffee or baby wipes.
- I’ve learned to chill. A mom’s nervous system is something strong but it can also overtake me with worry. I really had no choice but to train my mind and heart to let go of things out of my control. I haven’t mastered it by any means, but I can say I’m much happier now that I’ve chosen to approach parenting this way.
- I’ve learned that it was much easier to get things done, return emails/texts/calls, etc when I worked in an office than as a stay at home mom. It’s nearly impossible, actually. I salute you work at home moms!! Don’t know how you do it.
- I’ve learned you do not have to look like you have your shit together. Just getting to the school, meeting, event is an accomplishment. The fact that you haven’t showered in 3 days is irrelevant. You are there!
- I’ve learned that I can bribe the kids pretty easily. They get a dollar for sleeping in their own beds every night, and a dollar for taking out the trash and getting the mail, and I’m completely ok with it.
- I’ve learned to save money by consigning my nice clothes because I’m not able to wear them… and honestly I’m just a human napkin so it’s fine.
- I’ve learned to soak in the joy of having a complete stranger compliment the kids on their behavior.
Overall, I still have a lot to learn, but I think I’m doing a few things right. The kids love having me home. They are happy and thriving and that’s all that matters.